Dr. Patrick Mead
Series: Ruth
Shattered Dreams:
Dead End or Doorway?
Ruth 1:1-5; Judges
21:25; Jeremiah 29:11
Go ahead and take your copy of God's Word and turn to the first
chapter of the book of Ruth. We're looking at the first five verses this
morning. I have the wonderful privilege of every once in a while going to play
golf. Coach Marvel takes me to play golf, and every once in a while, we play
with a guy by the name of Ed Alvarez.
So one day we're playing golf, and Ed is my partner. I told
Ed that I prayed for my golf game. He kind of laughed because he thought I was
kidding. I wasn't kidding. I pray for my golf game. I need it. He went on to
say, "I don't pray for my golf game…" Of course, that's easy for him
to say. He can play. He said, "…because God has bigger things to deal with
than my golf game."
Now I would agree with that. In the grand scheme of things,
my golf game really isn't that important. It's important to me and probably to the
person who is on my team, but really in the grand scheme of things, it's not
that important. However, I would disagree with the thought that God doesn't
really care about the insignificant things in our lives.
I believe in the providence of God: that is, God is
absolutely actively involved in every aspect of our lives. God didn't just
create us and leave us on our own. No, God created us, and he is intimately
involved with the details of our lives. Now even though my golf game, when it
comes to God's unfolding purposes… I doubt it's connected with that. I find
great comfort in knowing that God does care for the insignificant things. He
does care for those things we would consider unimportant. God wants to be
involved in our lives. He does.
What we need to do, what we need to understand is the
theological term where we're talking about God's activity in our daily lives…
We call that providence. That's the
theological term. The providence of God. Understanding the providence of God is
crucial when it comes to living a life in a culture that is constantly
challenging our faith.
That is true about the book of Ruth, and it's true today.
There's great comfort in knowing and great security in knowing this one truth:
God is in control. Our God is an eternal God, but he is also a personal God.
That means he is involved with the details of our lives. Some people have a
hard time with this. Some people have a hard time with this whole concept that
God is actively involved with the small, minute details of our lives.
When Jesus taught us how to pray… We call it the Lord's
Prayer. It's really not the Lord's Prayer. Jesus never had to ask for
forgiveness. It's really the disciples' prayer. When he was teaching us how to
pray, do you remember what he said? He said to pray, "Give us this day our daily
bread." Why would he ask us to do that? Because he is intimately
involved in every detail of our lives. God is active in our lives.
So as we come to the book of Ruth, we're starting a series I
call Everyday God, God's activity in
everyday life. For the next seven weeks, we'll be gleaning some wonderful,
wonderful truth from this small, four-chapter book, but a very, very important
book. Very important. Even though this was written 1,200 years before Christ, let
me kind of give you a background to what Ruth was encountering.
Listen to what it says in verse 1: "In the days when the judges
ruled…" So that sets the background for us. That tells us this is
happening during the time of judges. It's happening during the time of judges.
Really that was a time in the history of Israel, one of the many times, where
they were disobedient to God.
In fact, the book of Judges says over and over again that
the people of Israel did evil in the sight of the Lord, and they served the
Baals. The last verse of the last chapter of the book of Judges sums it up very
well. The writer of Judges says, "In those days there was no king in
Israel. Everyone did what was right in his eyes." Everyone was
doing evil. So the situation that's taking place some 1200 BC is one of
faithlessness.
So the book of Ruth is really refreshing in the fact that
Ruth's faith is in stark contrast to the unfaithfulness of the people of
Israel. So it's in this climate of apostasy, unfaithfulness, that this
beautiful story, the story of Ruth, unfolds. It's a story of faith. It's a
story of loyalty. It's a story of love. It's a story of redemption. It's also a
story of God's activity in everyday life, God's providence in everyday life.
As I was saying, even though this happened 3,200 years apart
from us, the events of Ruth are still taking place today. God is actively
involved in our lives. It is my prayer that as we continue this study over the
next seven weeks, we begin to see God's activity in our lives more and more.
It's my prayer over the next seven weeks that we begin to see everything is
connected to God's purpose.
That means everything that happens in our lives is connected
to God's purpose. Everything that happens in history is connected to God's
purpose. That means our life has purpose. Our life has meaning. Our life has
value. "Everyday God" means God is with us always, and he cares for
us. He rules over us. He provides for us. So we begin the story today, and the
story begins with tragedy. In fact, you could say that the first five verses
are all about shattered dreams. A great question is…Are these shattered dreams a dead end, or are they a doorway?
Well, we learn in the first five verses, first of all, that discomfort
can lead to distrust. Again, verse 1 really sets the background for our
narrative. For it tells us, "In the days when the judges ruled
there was a famine in the land, and a man of Bethlehem in Judah went to sojourn
in the country of Moab, he and his wife and his two sons."
So the discomfort they were experiencing during this time
was famine. The severity of the famine is revealed in the fact that even
Bethlehem, which means house of bread, or house of grainery, the abundant
source of grain, was experiencing famine in the land. The land of Israel was
experiencing famine.
Now the author doesn't tell us why. He doesn't tell us this
famine was either a tool of discipline from the Lord or if it was just
something that happens by living in a sinful world. It doesn't say. I think the
author left it open for a reason because the experiences that are happening
here could apply to any family at any time.
Now I would suggest to you that one of the reasons they're
facing famine in the land at this point is because of the disobedience and the
unfaithfulness of the people of Israel. We have to remember the author doesn't
tell us, but he gives us the opportunity to speculate on it. I think we can
accurately speculate, if we put it into context, that this famine is a direct
result of the unfaithfulness of God's people.
The very fact that it was happening during the time of
judges… It was a time when God's people were constantly turning their backs on
the Lord. They were breaking the covenant of the Lord. They were turning their
backs on God and turning to the false gods. The Lord warned his people in
Leviticus and Deuteronomy, "If you turn your back on me, if you turn to
false gods, I will bring enmity into the land. I will destroy the crops. I will
withhold the seasonal rains." That's what famine is. Famine comes about
because God brings about a drought.
So they're having a drought. That's why I believe what
they're experiencing here, as the people of Israel, was the direct result of
God's discipline. They were unfaithful to God, and now he was disciplining
them. Now again, the author doesn't tell us this. He lets us read into it. He
leaves it wide open. I believe he does so so we can apply it to any situation.
This man and this family could be any family. The discomfort
they're going through could be any discomfort we experience this side of
heaven, whether it be for the purpose of correction, like this one, or for the
purpose of perfection. When you find yourself in those circumstances where you
are experiencing discomfort, the choices we make as believers are very, very
important.
This man had to make a choice. We don't have his name yet.
We don't even know the names of his family members yet, but we're told in the
very first verse that this man made a decision. Based upon the discomfort of
the famine, he made a decision. That decision was to leave the house of bread,
Bethlehem, and to go to the country of Moab.
Now I believe he purposed to go there at first for a very
short time: the very fact that he says his family went there to sojourn. Can
you really blame this man? Think about it. Can you really blame him? The
logical choice is, "Hey, what's best for your family?" When he made
this decision, the situation is basically to go where the grass is greener. So
can we really blame him for this decision?
If you think about the situation in Israel, there was a lot
of political unrest. They didn't have a king. They didn't have a king at all.
They had judges time and time again, and these judges would be lifted up and
delivered. So there was this political unrest. There was instability. Of
course, there was the economy. It was terrible.
So this man made a decision to leave Bethlehem, and he's in
good company. If you look to the Scriptures, you find Abraham. He left the Promised
Land. He went to Egypt. Isaac went to Philistia. Jacob, of course, went to
Egypt with the whole family. That's when Joseph was there. So from looking at
it, from a human perspective, it looks like he made a good decision. Or did he?
Let's look at verse 2. Let's meet this man. It says, "The
name of the man was Elimelech and the name of his wife Naomi, and the names of
his two sons were Mahlon and Chilion. They were Ephrathites from Bethlehem in
Judah. They went into the country of Moab and remained there." I want to suggest to you that this man
did not make a good decision. In fact, I want to show you from the text that
this man made the decision because of his inability to trust the Lord. He took
things in his own hands.
First, the names of
the people. Remember in the Old Testament, names are very, very important
and the meaning of those names. The first name, of course, the man's name is
Elimelech, which means my God is king. That name really reveals the faith of
his parents. His parents saw that baby boy and said, "My God is
King." That was a demonstration of their faith.
Then there is Naomi. Her name means pleasant. Then there are
the two sons. Mahlon… Do you know what it means? Sickly. Have you ever heard
anybody name their child puny?
"Hey, come here, puny." That's basically what Mahlon means. He is
puny. Then there, of course, is Chilion, which means, really, to come to an
end. It has this idea that it's death.
What's interesting is Elimelech did not use this opportunity
to demonstrate his faith like his parents did. Why? Because his faith had
faltered. He was no longer focused on the Lord. All he could do is look at his
circumstances, and they were bad. There was a famine in the land. So really the
names of his children reveal this man had lost his focus of God. He saw his
circumstances, and so he names his kids after the circumstances. Sickly, puny,
and death. I believe that is evidence of a man who has stopped trusting in God.
He has lost his focus.
Secondly, they were Ephrathites.
Scholars believe this was royalty. They had money. So they're in a famine. You
know the old saying: If you don't have
anything, you don't have anything to lose. Well, they had something. They
had something to lose. I believe the circumstances caused him to go to the
country of Moab to take things into his own hands. Discomfort can lead to
distrust.
Thirdly, Yahweh does
not appear in these verses. In all the book of Ruth, there are actually six
scenes. You will find the name of the Lord, Yahweh, in every scene except one:
the first five verses. This means he didn't consult God about this decision.
Plus, there's also a syntactical link between these two
verses and the story of Abraham going to Egypt, Genesis, chapter 12, verse 10.
There is a syntactical link here. In Genesis 12, Abraham, instead of trusting
God in the Promised Land, took things into his own hands. He went to Egypt.
Elimelech, instead of trusting God in the house of bread, at Bethlehem, took
things into his own hands. He went to the country of Moab. Discomfort can lead
to distrust.
Here's what Matthew Henry said about this passage. "It
is an evidence of a discontented, distrustful, unstable spirit, to be weary of
the place in which God has set us, and to be leaving it immediately whenever we
meet with any uneasiness or inconvenience in it." Discomfort can lead to
distrust. When that happens, distrust will lead to devastation.
It's very, very easy to justify disobedience in our hearts
and even call it the will of God. I really believe Elimelech was thinking,
"I think I'll help God out in this famine. I think I'll help him out. I
think I'll go to the country of Moab. I hear it's doing well." It's not
that far away, by the way, in terms of getting a vehicle and going. Of course,
they didn't have a vehicle. It's only 50-60 miles away. It was okay there.
Here's how it starts. Disobedience and distrust happen
gradually. Again, I believe Elimelech had all the plans. He was probably
thinking, "Hey, I'll go there just for a short while, and then I'll come
back." I believe that is what is suggested in verse 1. When it says they
went to sojourn in the country of Moab, that word sojourn means to go somewhere temporarily. That was his original
plan, but he left that original plan. We're told in the very last part of verse
2, "They
went into the country of Moab and remained there."
Distrust, when you take things into your own hands, will
lead to devastation. I want you to see the immediate consequences and then the
long-term consequences that came about because of Elimelech's decision to take
things into his own hands and not trust the Lord. Look at verse 3. There is the
immediate consequence. It says, "But Elimelech, the husband of Naomi,
died, and she was left with her two sons."
He left the house of bread because he thought, probably,
"If I don't leave, we're going to die." So he takes things into his
own hands, only to find out that he actually ran to the very thing he was
running from: death. In his pursuit of a better life he made things worse for
him and his family. Why? How did that happen? He let his discomfort lead him to
distrust, and he stopped trusting in God. He took things into his own hands.
Now look at the long-term consequences. So his wife is left
with the two sons. It says in verse 4, "These [Mahlon and Chilion] took
Moabite wives; the name of the one was Orpah and the name of the other Ruth. They
lived there about 10 years." Now instead of going back to
Bethlehem after Dad died, Naomi and the two sons (and probably under the
influence of the two sons, because they were the ones who were going to take
care of Naomi), decided, "Hey, we're going to stay here."
They stayed there another 10 years, probably because they
were more comfortable with the pagan culture of Moab than they were of Israel.
I think the very fact that they're marrying Moabite wives shows their
condition. Here's what happened. These two boys grew up. Puny and Death grew
up. The very names reveal their daddy wasn't trusting in God. So they grew up
watching their dad not trust in the Lord, and guess what happened? They
followed in Elimelech's footsteps. They followed in Daddy's footsteps.
Oh, it gets worse, because it says in verse 4, "They
lived there about ten years…" Then we come to verse 5: "…and
both Mahlon and Chilion died, so that the woman [Naomi] was
left without her two sons and her husband." Do you know what we
call verse 5? Shattered dreams. She
had nothing. She lost her husband. She lost her two sons. All she had left were
her two daughters-in-law, and guess what? They didn't have much to offer her.
So her dreams are shattered. No husband. No children. No
hopes of grandchildren now. She was just hoping she could have her basic needs
met on a daily basis. I imagine here's Naomi going, "Oh my goodness. My
dreams are shattered. I'm at a dead end in life. There's no way out. There's no
way out."
Here's the good news. There is. I want you to think about a
couple of things here before we move on, about this whole idea that distrust
will lead to devastation. How many times have we made decisions based upon
common sense or logical standard without consulting the Lord or his Word? I
think we need to be very careful to examine ourselves, myself included. How
many times have we acted like Elimelech? We profess to be Christians, but do we
really walk by faith?
Those of us who are husbands and fathers, are we leading our
families down the road of faith or a pathway of tragedy and devastation and
destruction? Do our families, do our wives and children, see us living a life
of faith every day? Do they see within us an abiding trust in Christ Jesus, and
that trust is what guides every aspect of our lives?
When problems come our way and we start experiencing
discomfort, husbands, dads, do we let them push us toward God or away from God?
All of us have experienced the pain and consequences of distrust, and not only
our own distrust. Elimelech's affected his whole family. Sometimes we're
affected by somebody else's. Distrust leads to devastation.
Here's what I like about the book of Ruth, though. The book
of Ruth is a great reminder to the child of God that God really does work all
things together for the good of those who love him and are called by him. The
story of Ruth is about… What we need to understand is even though there are
regrets in our lives and even though we may have made mistakes, we have this
wonderful assurance as God's children's that all things work together for good.
God can even use our foolishness, and yes, God can use our mistakes for his
glory. That's what the story of Ruth is about. God intervened.
So with God, and in God's economy, shattered dreams don't
have to be a dead end. In fact, in God's economy, devastation can actually
become a doorway for God to do great things. Devastation can become a doorway
for God to do great things. Let me give you a couple of truths really quickly.
Here's what we can learn from Elimelech. This is something God gave me just in
my own personal life.
Stop running from the famine, and start trusting God in the
famine. Otherwise, you will always be in the famine. Realize God is good to
those who wait. When we don't wait and when we take things into our own hands
and we experience devastation, the Bible is all about God taking devastation
and turning it into a doorway of opportunity.
Genesis, chapter 3, is a devastating time in the history of
humanity because we fell, but it became a doorway for God to do some great
things, right? Mainly send his Son to redeem us from our sins. That's what the
Bible is about. It's about God taking devastation, taking shattered dreams and
using those shattered dreams to become a doorway of opportunity for God to do
great things.
One of my favorite verses is Jeremiah 29:11. I'm sure many
of you have memorized that. "'For I know the plans I have for you,'
declares the Lord, 'plans for welfare, not for calamity, not for evil, to give
you a hope, to give you a future.'" Now we all love that verse,
but before that verse, you have verse 10.
In fact, you have to put that verse in the context of the
book of Jeremiah. God says, "For I know the plans I have for you…"
but before that he says in verse 10 (and I want to read that to you), "For
thus says the LORD: 'When seventy years are completed for Babylon, I will visit
you, and I will fulfill to you my promise and bring you back to this
place.'" The 70 years of exile came about because of devastation.
They turned their backs on God.
In God's economy, devastation doesn't have to be a dead end.
Some of you have made mistakes. You're thinking, "Man, God can't use me
then. I'm at a dead end. There's no way out." Devastation can become a
doorway for God to do great things. If you're here this morning and your
marriage didn't turn out the way you thought it would be, your family didn't
turn out the way you thought it would be, your dreams are shattered, do you
know what God says to you? "For I know the plans I have for you…"
Your financial portfolio isn't what you thought it would be
at this time. Now you're looking to the future, and that future you planned for
is not going to happen. Your financial dreams are now shattered. Do you know
what God says to you? "For I know the plans I have for you…"
Some of you are here this morning, and you've made decisions in the past. You
have regrets. You are wondering, "Am I at a dead end? Is there any way
out?" Here's what God says to you: "For I know the plans I have for you…"
Devastation doesn't have to be a dead end if you belong to
God; devastation can be a doorway for God to do some great things in your life.
Shattered dreams… If you belong to God, trust in him, because God can take
those shattered dreams and use them as a doorway to do great things in your
life. Shattered dreams? Trust in Christ. Return to him. God will take care of
you.
If you're here this morning and you've never trusted Christ
as your Lord and Savior, that's the most important decision you can make in
life. That decision is to place your faith in Jesus Christ, to understand that
you're a sinner in need of a Savior and that Jesus Christ died for our sins,
was buried, and on the third day he rose to life. The Bible says if we'll
confess with our mouth that Jesus was Lord and believe in our hearts God raised
him from the dead, we can be saved. You can be saved this morning. God wants to
save you this morning.
If you're here today and you're not a part of a church
family, I believe if you have a family, you have a mini-church, and that mini-church
needs to be part of a local church. If you sense God calling you to this church
today, I'm going to ask you to get up and come up here and say, "We want
to be a part of this church family. We want to serve the Lord here."
If today you're here and your dreams are shattered and
you're broken, you're in a very good place for God to do some great things. If
you need prayer today, I want to pray with you. We'll have pastors in the back,
pastors up front. We'll pray with you. If you're not comfortable with coming up
during the invitation, you can come out to the reception area. I'd love to talk
with you there as well. Let's pray.
Father, we thank you for your Word today. We thank you that
with you, shattered dreams are not a dead end but a doorway for you to do great
things in our lives if we'll just humble ourselves this morning.
God we just pray for that person who doesn't know Christ here
this morning, for that man or woman who is sitting here today who has shattered
dreams and they think they're in a dead end. Lord, give them hope today. Remind
them that you have a plan for their life, that you want to give them purpose
and meaning and value in Christ Jesus. We thank you for this Word. We give you
all the glory. Have your way during this time of invitation. In Jesus' name,
amen.